Here's a quote from Jon Katz's blog today:
I think love is a choice. You get up even if you are tired to say goodbye or make breakfast. You put them before you. You reach out, even when you are tired and self-absorbed. You put aside fear because it kills love, and hope. You think every morning, “what can I do to brighten the day of this person? What does she need from me? What little think can I do to show her that she is cared for, valued and thought of?”
Maria, his love interest, is a lucky person.
I've been divorced for over 10 years now, and have been trying (sometimes harder, sometimes less hard) to find a partner since then. After 10 years of optimism, hope, belief, I am finally beginning to internalize the fact that I may be alone the rest of my life and not view that thought with so much dread or sorrow. I am no longer interested in wasting any more energy on things which do not feed my soul. Internet dating is one of those things. Before, I thought it was an investment with a potentially great payoff, but after years of spending so much mental and emotional energy on that rollercoaster, I want to get off. I want to use that mental and emotional energy on nourishing the connections that I already have and feeding my spirit. That's a much more certain payoff.
Sour grapes? Winter blahs? Maybe. And of course the upcoming Valentine's Day has a bit to do with it. But decisions where I move taking care of myself higher on my list are never wrong decisions to make, no matter the impetus.
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